My Unhappy Boy!

I was out for dinner tonight so I'm late. Brandon called me when I was about to board the bus back home. Brandon was unhappy with his Daddy and called to complain about him. I do not know the conversation between both of them and I do not want to jump into conclusion and listen to his side of story only. I told him we shall talk when I reached home in awhile.

The moment I stepped in, I asked him what has happened. He threw the question to his Daddy and wanted Shunxing to tell me. I insisted Brandon to tell me what's going on. He told me he gave his reason why his homework is undone but Shunxing still blamed and scolded him. I explained to Brandon, why his father is upset with him with regards to this issue. In Brandon's point of view, Daddy likes to scold him for no reason even if he explained. I told him never put such bad thinking in his mind cos Daddy loves him so much. He should learn to put himself in other people shoe instead of giving excuses and thinking he is right every time. If Daddy is bad to him, will he buy so many gifts for Brandon? If Daddy is evil, will he bring Brandon to eat his favourite Japanese food or Pasta? Daddy wants Brandon to finish his homework earlier so he will have more time for games and fun! If Brandon tried to find fault with Daddy, then the fault lies with me. I'm the one who gave Brandon permission to do nothing except play and play for one whole week. I told Baby, he shouldn't thought of the bad things his Dad did to him. Instead, he should think of his Dad all the good things that he gave to him and provide for him. Brandon must learn to be more patient and answer Daddy in a nice tone. 

Nevertheless, Brandon did improve abit compare to few months ago. I told him, Mummy is putting a lot of effort to teach him the right things. Mummy is learning to be more tolerant than before cos she do not want Brandon to behave the same way like her. I used to shout at him, talk to him in a sternly and always demand so much from him. Now, I realise this is wrong and I found that, by talking to Brandon in a calm tone, will easily soothe his unhappiness away and eventually, he listens. Shortly after that, I saw Brandon took the initiative to apologise to his Daddy without my reminder. I'm so proud of him. It is a good start to see him in this manner.

I asked Brandon if he would prefer me to talk to him like before or right now? He quickly replied me he likes the current 'me' with a big smile on his face! I told him, in future, before he gets angry with anyone, always think of that person's good points. Naturally, he will not be too upset or take it too hard. How he likes the ending turns out to be in every situation always start from the beginning. If Baby answers back in a good manner, the other party will also reply in a nice tone. But if he answers back in a rude manner, the other party feels offended and he/she will not reply in a nice tone. That's when argument starts rolling in. Now, he talks to me in a much better tone than before which I'm really glad about. We have to give Brandon more time, I do not want to push him too hard to make him worse. I believe in future, Brandon will understand my efforts and all the things I've done for him, is for his own good. 

It's not an easy task being a mother, a parent and a guidance to my Baby!

Brandon's Drawing

Earth Day by Brandon Chan Yu Kai

Boggle from Daddy

Brandon got this gift from his Daddy whilst on their way back to Clementi. He is a lucky boy cos his Daddy will buy him anything he likes. Although his Daddy will scold him fiercely when he did something wrong, but Shunxing dotes him a lot. I seldom buy him present except special occasion etc. like his birthday and Christmas Day. I will also reward him when he scored well for his exams. I do not wish to see Brandon has the bad habit of asking for gifts as and when he likes.

Boggle is a word game designed by Allan Turoff and trademarked by Parker Brothers and Hasbro. The game begins by shaking a covered tray of sixteen cubic dice. Each die has a different letter printed on each of its sides. The dice settle into a four by four tray such that only the top letter of each cube is visible. After they have settled into the grid, a three minute timer is started and all players simultaneously begin the main phase of play.

Simple as it may sound, the players involved must be quick to form words of different lengths which entails different points.

 

Different versions of Boggle have varying distributions of letters. For example, a more modern version (with a blue box) in the UK has easier letters, such as only one "K", but an older version (with a yellow box, from 1986) has two "K"s and a generally more awkward letter distribution.

It is an interesting and challenging game which me and Brandon love to play!

Dinner at Sushi-Tei!

Brandon's favourite ~ Chawamushi

'Chopstick Perfomance'

My all-time favourite ~ Spicy Miso Ramen

I love this pic! sweet and loving~

Yummy! Icy snowballs

Quote of the Day

Receipe from Brandon!

Today was our lazing day! Me and Brandon don't wish to do anything at home except lying in my big bed... watching my Korean dramas whilst Brandon playing his PSP... what a wonderful Sunday! We simply love it and he so much wish every day is like today.. hahaha..

He was hungry this afternoon and most of our food are instant-made. I have instant noodles, porridge, mushroom soup, pratas, can food, biscuits etc. all are unhealthy food yet we like to eat them. He requested for a nice sandwich bread and he taught me how to make one. Recipe - Prepare 2 slices of bread and 1 cheesedale. Get a frying pan, heat up, put a little oil, throw 1 slice of bread first, heat for 5secs, leave the cheesedale on top of the bread, heat for another 5secs, flip it over and put another slice of bread underneath, heat for 10secs, there it goes our Cripsy Cheesy Fried Sandwich! I find it too plain, so I fried an egg and put in between. Yummy~ Brandon love it and finished the whole bread less than 10mins. ~I feel contented and happy! 

Kids Gathering @ Home

 

Daddy's Floss Fried Rice and Cooling Cocktail! 

Brandon and the boys happily eating and playing together...

 OMG! Brandon's bedroom in choas...

Boys at play!~

Ivi's newphew- JunJun's Birthday!

Its my first time ever invited my good friends with their children over my house. Only Ivi, she will bring her nephew, JunJun, and so coincidentally that today is also his birthday. I didn't buy him a birthday cake, instead I bought 6 lovely egg-tarts to substitute... not too bad! Brandon has never play or interact with so many boys at home, its also his first time to share all his games and toys with them. Most importantly, I want him to know how fortunate he is right now.

Another reason, due to my best friend, Vanessa, who has an autistic son named Josen. He was abit hurt by somebody who has shouted at him few weeks ago and I like to make him happy again. So, I invited the kids over so that they can have fun together. In the end, the boys did not do any arts & crafts as per my previous plan, they played Lego and PSP! Josen was absolutely curious Brandon's toys. One of them is the flying saucer which scared the hell out of Ivi!

By mid-day, Brandon was unhappy when Josen misplaced his toys. I do not hold anything against Josen as I'm well prepared and I fully understand how my son feels. I did my best and explained to Brandon about Josen. My only request from him is to show Josen more gracious and patience. My son misinterpreted his lost toy - 'Frisbees' as 'Boomerang'... Josen felt accused over this issue when Vanes kept asking him where he put the 'Boomerang'. Josen was upset as he never touch it until another boy told us, actually its 'Frisbees'! Josen right away showed his Mummy where he left it and he looked at him, telling him he's still upset! We finally got the picture, all toys were found. I talked to Brandon and I want him apologise and talk to Josen in a good manner. I'm so glad when both make up and be good again. I hope Brandon will learn more about caring and sharing in future.