Slack + Lazy + Rude + Lame

Brandon is totally out of control! I have warned him since last week about his behaviour, his attitude, his forgetfulness and his rudeness. He seem to turn me a deaf ear and never heed my countless warnings. I caned him earlier for more than 3 times. I checked his homework, his handwriting was so untidy and all the answers that he written were mostly WRONG! He didn't bother to double-check and not only that, tomorrow he's having his CH and EN spellings and he has not learn any of them! Arghh!!! I told him I will check on him every day and he better ensure his school bag is neatly packed. I do not wish to see any rubbish or more than 3 storybooks inside cos it's too heavy for him to carry to school. His final year exams is just round the corner and his form teacher already gave him the exact details what he will be tested on. Yet he dun seem to bother... I been seeing him watching his cartoons series and movies every night... lying on the sofa... reading his comics or storybooks/magazines... playing with his toys... I reminded him again and again to do more assessment and revise his past worksheets/textbooks... I'm just talking to the walls cos he show no reaction! That really gets on my nerves tonight!!! If possible, I try my best not to use cane on him cos I don't like to punish him in this manner and I think he's old enough to know what he suppose to do. I gave him my reason why I allowed him to study at his own pace so that he don't feel restricted and I trust him to behave himself. Again, he has proven me wrong! He screamed at my mum again for not able to find his spelling list where that piece of paper was inside his school bag! I don't wish to see my mum get more stress over his matter. I have to teach him a lesson to be more mindful with language and speak to everyone politely. His temper is getting worse and if I don't keep him under control now, he will definitely get more aggressive with those that he can bully! Lately, he also been taking my mum for granted. *sigh... so, if I don't him how serious I am right now, he will get worse each day! Teaching a kid to be obedient.. to be good takes lot Patience... it's not easy task especially when they learn more things, they will argue back with you all kinds of reasons! Finally I'm done with his spellings and school work... I'm so shag and tired.....

a lazy weekend....

Yesterday is Hari Raya Pusa... it's Sri's holiday.... we gave her an ang-pow for this happy occasion! We went back on Saturday morning to pray to my FIL, and have a good lunch together. At night, while his Daddy was out with his frens, we ordered Pizza Hut.. Yummy! It's been so long since I had pizza.. and my favourite spicy drumlets.. miss the food again! ^o^ We brought MIL and Sri to the West Coast Mall - Sushi Tei for a wonderful lunch... these were the food that I ordered for them... both enjoyed the food so much and look so happy.. thereafter, we went shopping for while then back home.

Baby's temper getting worse and worse lately. He easily get frustrated and agitated whenever things doesn't go the way that he wants it to be. I also find him with this bad habit of pushing the blame to my mum whenever he forgets his stuffs! hmm! I warned that if i found out that he is rude and command my mum to do anything for him again, I shall confiscate all his fav toys and no more pressie for him even if he did well for his exams. One thing, I must emphasis to him is he's very fortunate that he has so many things which many kids out there do not owe them. We encourage him by rewarding those gadgets that he wish for when he did well for his studies... but, if I find him badly misbehave,. I will not allow such gifts to be given to him anymore!

Hopefully, he will learn his lessons and buck up his school work as I find him getting more and more slack this month... final year exam is approaching... yet I c him relax @ home.. watching TV... reading his comics... playing his Penguin games... or log into his Facebook... OMG! He's only 8yrs old.. Primary 2.. but I have to worry about his future like he is in secondary school... *sigh...

Baby had a good swim!

Today Brandon had his swim @ Clementi Swimming Complex...this is his first time coming here and he was excited and happy when we arrived. I suppose to swim together with him but I am not feeling well. I know I'm so evil cos I actually tried to discourage him from swimming earlier cos the weather was quite bad. It was drizzling when we reached. I told him a ghost story just to scare him off but I am surprised he's not afraid... Hmm! So, I followed him in and watched him swimming from one end to the other end. I didn't he can enjoy himself so much even he's alone by himself.... *hee... after the swim, he was so tired that he fell asleep in the car before we reached home. It was fun and memorable day for him... he miss his swimming lessons.** I promised him that I will enroll him for his lessons again next year.

latest updates

Lately, too many happenings and I do not know how Brandon take it in his lill world... sometimes kids do not express much of their true self in front of adults... I hope he will not too affected by his YeYe's sudden death! Although he didn't cry or show me that he is feeling sad... but I believe he do have some feelings for his YeYe.. my FIL dote him so much... At least Baby makes my day these few days. He cracked many silly jokes to me... his actions look silly and lame to me.. i find him amusing most of the time. Those are the moments that he makes me laugh.. like early morning, I heard him singing to himself while he's taking his shower... when I made the pratas for his tea-time and supper, he compliment me that the pratas taste great! He lubb it and he ate so many. I'm so happy to see him enjoying his food... when he encouraged me to play Sudoku from his DS Lite.. he said that I'm AWESOME cos I managed to score high marks.. and my speed like a 'Jet'! We talk craps.. we act silly and we cuddle together in bed.. hugging each other to sleep... these are the moments that is memorable and sweet.... My baby saw me cried that day when my FIL passed away in the morning.. he made a card on my behalf to my FIL telling him I lubb him so much.. in his innocent kiddie world, he helped me to express freely how I feel.. his action may look silly but I appreciate what he has done and that is really really so sweet of him! Thank you my cheeky Baby... Mummy is happy that you are so caring... I give you a big kiss! *mmuak

Angel's 2Yrs Old Bday!

Today we celebrated Angel's birthday... she is 2yrs old now... healthy, smart, active, energetic, strong, cheerful and cute lill monster of Yeu's family! She is very happy and both my bro and Shan are so proud of her bright lill princess...

Look at Brandon hugging Angel! i know he fight alot with Angel and I also know he tend to get jealous of her easily... elder kids will have such thoughts in mind especially when the family members show more attention and care on the younger ones... i feel so bad and sad when my bro is so upset with Brandon's actions towards Angel and i fully understand his feeling as a parent.. a Daddy.. cos he also wanna protect his baby... same goes for mi.. YES! Brandon made many mistakes and many warnings been given... after all, many kids are like that and no one is perfect in this world! i can only do my best by checking on him.. make sure that he do not bully Meimei or do any nasty things to her..

I did remind and warn Brandon many many times always be careful when he's with Angel.. always be a good big bro to Meimei and learn to care for her.. learn to share with her... i hope everyone will give him a chance and some time to change for the better.. i trust my Baby also do not want himself to be out-cast or disliked by everyone...

It's part and parcel of life... we must learn to accept and forgive whenever we can.. i will discipline him if he is in the wrong... but before i take any action on him, i must not jump to conclusion and assume that he is the trouble-maker... i have to be fair to him too! no one is born to be a bad guy unless he has been taught or learnt from somewhere...

not easy being a Mummy!

It's really not an easy task being a Mummy! kids nowadays are so smart... they know when they should give you their stunts to agitate you and know when to show you their pitiful face or ignorant look like they really don't know about it.. *Gosh! i almost go crazy these few days... after my nagging, lectures, canning, scoldings... my Baby still lack of motivation... he used to be initiative in his schwork.. used to be alert.. used to be obedient.. but now, he will answer back to mi... will challenge mi his knowledge... will demand..no-no.. i should say request pressie for any occasion... tell mi lies to cover his wrongdoings... secretly exchange messages in sch or with his Daddy not letting mi know what he's up to... i must admit i did not spend enough time with him... but i did try my best to teach him the right things.. i know i am still harsh with my words... especially when im angry with him! honestly, i really don't mean to and i wish i can shower the same kind of lubb like how Laura to Melody and Ting to Jadon... and Mag to all her nieces and Joven... *sigh sometimes, i do need his Daddy's understanding... my tone may sound unfriendly to him but seriously i do not mean anything at all... i don't like him to misinterpret my intention and always assume that im finding fault at him! its NOT TRUE... im also tired and im very sick of quarrels.. sick of his banging and shouting... most important, i don't wish Baby to follow suit. i wish Brandon will be a calm boy who like to socialise and be open-minded.. not to be a self-centered person who easily get jealous over MeiMei Angel... i want him to learn to be generous with things and share with her... I do not know what has happened to Baby when i was not around that whole week.. i just find him slacken in his schwork.. his attitude turns terrible and he get impatient most time... especially with his Ma-Ma... i wish i can help him... maybe i should stand in his shoes and think about why he has such reactions lately... yes, i know there will be more to come and im still learning... learning how to control my temper.. learning how to give him more attention.. learning how to use my words wisely by not hurting him... i will try my best!

Its my Baby Bday!!!